For most moms of girls this is no big deal. For some moms it is simply cultural tradition. For other people it can seem "borderline child abuse". At least that was one comment made by a woman concerning piercing your baby girls ears when they are little. I had mine pierced when I was around 12 or 13 because my dad wouldn't let me do it until then. After that I had two more piercings in my ear done ;) I do enjoy wearing pretty earrings. I do not however think it's child abuse. I can see benefits to having them done when they are tiny. Just like a shot it's over with quickly and they seem to stop crying soon after. 

Do you think it's best to wait and decide if your daughter wants her ears pierced or did you decide the moment you heard you were having a little girl to get it done? According to this Mama Latin women get them pierced very young. What are your thoughts? 

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as far as it being child abuse... i would say yes and no. You are purposely inflicting pain on your kid. For no reason. There is no reason for them to have them pierced that early. That's just like a little boy wearing a necklace or bracelet. Do they really need real jewelry that young??? I'm more then ok with giving my son play stuff like those mardi gras beads to play with.  Plus, the earrings could fall out, they could swallow them, get stuck if they role over on it etc. I had to wait till i was in fourth grade. Did it hurt? Sure. Its' a NEEDLE! Did it hurt longer then a minute? no. And at that age i was mature enough to take care of my earrings. It's ok for some people, but i would never do that to my kid before they were at least in the later part of elementary school and can ask for it and i knew they would be able to take proper care of it. It's kinda like, why would you try to make your child look more grown up then they are??? Seeing babies with their ears pierced just kills me... That is a vanity issue their mother has... imo. People have their whole lives to get piercings, why rush it??!!

Child abuse?  No.  Would I inflict pain on my children for no other reason than vanity?  Absolutely not.  I do though understand that in some cultures it's tradition and it's a momentary pain and it's not harmful in any long term way so I have a hard time judging others that do it. 

There's enough judging of mothers and their parenting when it comes to rather innocuous stuff.  You do what you do and let other do what they do.  I'm sure there are things I say or do with my children that others don't approve of.  Mind your own business and do what you feel is right for you and your children. 

I am a Latina, and it is cultural. We pierce baby girls’ ears when they are very young. As a matter of fact my mother was the one in our family that did all the piercings, with a needle and thread. I don’t believe it is vanity. We do so because first, they will not remember the pain. My first piercing was done as an infant; I do not remember it of course. My second piercing was done when I was 12. It was very painful. I am embarrassed to say I only had one ear done, LOL! Secondly, our daughters are little princesses- what princess is not excited with jewels. If I had a girl, ears would be pierced as soon as possible. I don’t think it has anything to do with with having a child look grown up when they still so young. We let them dress up in our clothes and make up, buy them princess, paint their nails, and wear fireman costumes.

Besides, I don’t think it is any worse than having your son circumcised as an infant. For those who believe in circumcision, would you rather wait until he is older to do that? I had my son circumcised as an infant, and I felt awful about it-but he only cried for a few minutes stopped by the time we left the doctors office. However, as a nurse I know that circumcision as a youth or adult is excruciatingly painful-I did not want my son to remember anything like that.

As for traumatized, ask any girl who had their ears pierced or boy who had a circumcision as a baby and see if they remember the pain. Then ask any of having such done as child or adult…I bet they can all describe the pain quite well.

However, I do respect those parents who wish to wait to have their daughters ears peirced. It is an opportunnity to share a girl moment with your daughter when she decides that she is ready and you pick out her first pair of earrings together...wonderful memories to be made.

I don't think its wrong or right it's all up to choice. Personally I did not have my daughters ears pierced early, I feel more comfortable waiting until she is old enough to let me know she would like them pierced. I was 14 when I got my ears pierced, I remember it pinching a bit but it didn't hurt very bad having it done at an older age. Since I turned 18 ive had my ears pierced a 2nd time as well as having my lip pierced.I dont think it hurts more. I think my daughter will respect me letting her have the choice as she gets older too.

personally i do not see a reason to poke holes or remove skin from a perfectly healthy and natural body. It isn't my body so I feel as if I do not have the right to pierce anyone's ears or remove their foreskin etc. Once they are old enough to make those choices then we will sit down and talk about it . Heck I will even pay for it.. 

 Now my better half and her family do not share my views on ear piercings as infants ...... Thank the gods we have a boy! 

I don't think its child abuse or wrong to pierce a baby's ear. I had my ears pierced when I was a few months old and I'm glad my mom did. As a matter of fact just about every person I know who has had a baby girl had their ears pierced at an early age. I had my second piercing when I was a teenager and it really didnt hurt at all. Nowadays, I think everyone takes the simpliest stuff so seriously.

I have two daughters one is 11 and the other is 7 mos, both of my girls got their ears pierced as soon as they could ( @ 2 mos. old, after they have had their first shots). I am not of latin descent (fyi), it is just something that has been done in our family forever, my ears were pierced at 3 mos, my mom and Aunt was done at 3 mos, ect.... Do I consider piercing a young girls ears child abuse .....absolutely not....in a society where much worse is being done to children, something as small as ear piercing in my opinion can hardly be considered child abuse.

I had to wait until I was 12 to have mine done and to be completely honest, it was kind of traumatic. lol The anticipation leading up to it, then knowing what they were going to do was a lot for me to handle. I haven't had any other piercings on my ears since. So I always knew I'd have my daughter's done early, so I did. Is it child abuse? No, that's ridiculous. She cried for 30 seconds, that was it. She loves her earrings, has never messed with them or taken them off. She's been so excited to start changing them out now that she's 4. It has absolutely nothing to do with looking more grown up. And I know she won't resent me later on for having them done young.

No I dont think its child abuse. I'm hispanic and it was cultural for us. Had mine pierced at 2 days old. I dont remember a thing lol. Yes, glad they did that for me then. Loved having my little tiny earings and never remembering the pain!.I just think its a personal choice but in no way child abuse lol! If i had a daughter I would do the same as my mom did probably.

I respect your opinion on this issue. I had all 4 of my girls ears pierced when they were young. I now have custody of my grand daughter and had hers done when she was 3 months old. If you have the proper ear rings and backs put in they will not fall out. I had locking backs put on my girls ear rings. They never came out unless I took them out. My girls nor my grand daughter ever messed with them as babies. They felt like it was just something normal. It does not hurt them anymore than a immunization does. In fact some immunizations are more painful than a piercing.

Row's~mommy said:

as far as it being child abuse... i would say yes and no. You are purposely inflicting pain on your kid. For no reason. There is no reason for them to have them pierced that early. That's just like a little boy wearing a necklace or bracelet. Do they really need real jewelry that young??? I'm more then ok with giving my son play stuff like those mardi gras beads to play with.  Plus, the earrings could fall out, they could swallow them, get stuck if they role over on it etc. I had to wait till i was in fourth grade. Did it hurt? Sure. Its' a NEEDLE! Did it hurt longer then a minute? no. And at that age i was mature enough to take care of my earrings. It's ok for some people, but i would never do that to my kid before they were at least in the later part of elementary school and can ask for it and i knew they would be able to take proper care of it. It's kinda like, why would you try to make your child look more grown up then they are??? Seeing babies with their ears pierced just kills me... That is a vanity issue their mother has... imo. People have their whole lives to get piercings, why rush it??!!

I guess my issue is that these are little kids, babies.. why do we need to rush this stuff? I would think that could be saved to be a special moment for mother and daughter when the daughter wants it done :-) My mom took me to the place in the mall and we had an afternoon together just us. Plus, once i walked by and this infant, looked like a newborn, was screaming their heads off becuause of that getting done. I thought to myself holy cow, why wouldn't anyone in their right minds do that to their baby?? I cried as my son was getting shots, I didn't want him to get them, but it's required to be in daycare. Anytime you can avoid any type of pain in your child, is great. That's just not something I would ever do..but that's me, everyone is different and does it for different reasons :-)  It's not a big deal, there just ear piercings.. but that's just one thing more that kids lose, unaltered bodies... and to me, that's a shame since it seems like when we turn into teens we just flip out and peirce and tattoo away. I got out of hand with three ear holes in each ear and a nose peircing... :-)

I have 3 girls, the older two asked before I let them get theirs done.  My youngest is almost 3 and does not have hers done yet..child abuse...not really, but i can see why some people would say that...same as circumcising a baby boy..could be seen as child abuse.

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