I was wondering about this yesterday as Jack needed to hit the potty and I had a basket full of groceries. I wondered... do I let him go alone in the men's stall or do I let him go by himself to the womens so I can go in if needed? What age is appropriate when your child is the opposite sex from you to allow them in a public restroom alone?

P.S. I am a very paranoid mommy about the weirdos out there and chose to let him walk in the women's bathroom first to go ahead while I grabbed my purse and followed behind. ;)

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My daughter who just turned three is way too young. But with the twins (they are boys, and are 5), I do let them go into the boys bathroom alone under two conditions. 1) They go together and 2) They have to make sure there is no one in the bathroom before they can enter it. Because I'm pretty paranoid about child molesters in there. And of course they have to wash their hands, but they are very good about that. Now, I do crack the door and say "make sure you wash your hands" sometimes. 

My Daughter is almost 12 and I just let her use a public restroom on her own 2 days ago.

My 2 boys have to go together and i stand outside the door and wait.If only one of them are with me they go in with me,i get rude comments but oh well i dont wonder if they are safe or not

My 5 year old son will go to the women's room only and supervised. I don't let him do much alone unless he is in our home. I worked in Loss prevention for years where I have seen and stopped as well as prosecuted men for what that do in restrooms and fitting rooms with each other and I do not want my son to ever walk into that or to be victimized in any way. There is nothing wrong with children using the women's or family rest rooms for their safety. I remember one woman had a problem with it on a recent Wal-mart trip. She told me that there was a men's room next door...I told her she should go use it if she likes it so much.

The first age that came to mind was  10-12'ish.  Jakob obviously still goes with Mommy or Daddy. 

 

My 5 (almost 6) year old still goes into the womens room with me.  He doesn't try to peak under the stalls or anything so I don't see it being an issue...and if someone has a problem with it, they are welcome to wait outside until we are finished! :)  I'm sorry, but at 5 he's TOO young to go into the mens room alone.  Now, if it were like Molly's situation and he had a brother or someone to go with him, I don't think I'd have a problem with it because he wouldn't be alone.

good for you for saying that!!! you were nicer than I would have been, but yeah, that was a good comeback  LOL



Linda Cerqueira said:

My 5 year old son will go to the women's room only and supervised. I don't let him do much alone unless he is in our home. I worked in Loss prevention for years where I have seen and stopped as well as prosecuted men for what that do in restrooms and fitting rooms with each other and I do not want my son to ever walk into that or to be victimized in any way. There is nothing wrong with children using the women's or family rest rooms for their safety. I remember one woman had a problem with it on a recent Wal-mart trip. She told me that there was a men's room next door...I told her she should go use it if she likes it so much.

I'm glad I am not the only one thinking that.. :) the lady in the restroom yesterday was very nice to me and she totally understood. She made the comment about the world being too crazy. If I were in Molly's situation I would probably allow it but when it is just he and I... he goes with me. I do let him in his own stall now right beside mine but that is about it. Thankfully we haven't run into too many rude people about this but I know it is coming...

previous to that, if you're out and about with her, and she has to go - what did you do?

Charles Leazott said:

My Daughter is almost 12 and I just let her use a public restroom on her own 2 days ago.

My son is 9 and just started going alone about a month ago and I wait right outside and if i think its taking to long I will go in. Have only had to do that once (his zipper was stuck lol). But up until a couple of months ago he was going with me. He is a talker and there are way to many wierdos out there. Of course I was always considerate of the young girls in the restroom and made him do everything super fast and not look around and he understood. Now I feel like he gets that there a awful people in the world and one could be in the restroom so he gets in there washes up and runs right out!

My son is 15 and still goes in with me, (it's a unique case) because I have to help him most of the time due to his arms being so shaky. We usually just use the Family Restroom at Wal-Mart or where they are available. At church back in Ohio, I just make sure all the guys are outta the restroom before he goes in, so if he comes out with his pants around his ankles.. I can help. :D I really think there should be more family restrooms for situations: He's not getting any younger.  It's not cool to bring an adult in the women's restroom, even though he doesn't think like one.. but again... When ya gotta go...

With all that being said: We almost always go potty before we leave the house and my husband will take him in with him when we're all together. So, it doesn't happen often that I have to do that, but.. ya gotta do, what ya gotta do. When we're doing our "business" we're all locked in, so it's not like we're in a women's changing room looking around. That would just be very awkward. lol. Each stall of the women's restrooms should all be the size of a handicap one anyhow. It's not easy squeezing kiddo's in there with us. Even when they are 6 years old. lol. Moms Unite = Bigger Restrooms. ;D

No Kidding!!! Some of these stalls we have squeezed into have been so tiny it's hard for one person much less two to get in there. I always wonder who plans out the restrooms because they were not designed by a woman. No way would the toilet paper roll be placed where it is in some of these restrooms. LOL

Melissa U. said:

 Each stall of the women's restrooms should all be the size of a handicap one anyhow. It's not easy squeezing kiddo's in there with us. Even when they are 6 years old. lol. Moms Unite = Bigger Restrooms. ;D

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